One of the miracles of Jesus Christ was that he changed water into wine for his people. Can you do that? Most likely the answer is ‘No I cannot do it’. It is because it is not possible. The method of doing is not known. So it is easy to say cannot. The theory of gravity is always there. When Newton discovered it he became popular. Likewise Sir Albert Einstein who proposed the theory of relativity. To date, the world is mesmerized by the idea of this genius. You will be 50 meters to success in anything if you flow through the cycle of ‘cannot’ and then to ‘try’ and then to ‘can’. I call it CTC- cycle.

Cannot

One fine morning, you hear a doorbell and when you opened the door there stands a beautiful Miss World and says to you that she wants to be with you for the rest of her life. You will probably think your going to be in ‘candid camera’. After she had convinced you that it was not a joke and that she is seriously into business in getting to know you deeper, you will probably say ‘yes’ to her proposal. The meat is just ready to be munched.

If you are going to receive a cheque for 2 million dollars from Mr. Bill Gates subject to that you reply him in a ‘can’ envelope accepting his generosity, you will probably accede to it.

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When something that gives you gratification and readily accessible- you will say ‘can’. But when accessibility is vague or zero, you will likely to say cannot.

The final objective of living is always happiness. Why do we go after that particular career? the business, why do a person travel when he is at leisure, why the wives delight the husbands with their favorite dishes , why do we choose to eat a better food, why do we protect ourselves from diseases, why do we take care of our children so deeply, why do we smoke, why do we take an insurance policies, why do we play stocks and shares, why do we work, why do we play or listen to music. The list can go on and on. My point is that all pursuits carry an ultimate reason behind - happiness. But there is one thing we got to make sure. What are the things that can make us happy? People are not so conscious about what actually they wanted to make them feel happy. They are just too playful.

Therefore, the first and foremost is to find what has to happen to make us happy. I feel happy when I write. That is the reason for starting this page. Think and think again those things that make you happy.

When you have found that ‘dream’ explore whether it can affect you adversely. Pursuing to befriend the next-door neighbor’s wife for a hidden motive is cause for trouble. Making two million dollars by performing robbery is against the code of society. If drug trafficking is death by hanging then it is far too risky to be a ‘lifebuoy’. Evaluate seriously the happiness purpose and if it is a viable objective, seek it by various methods. Try.

Try

I still remember that ice cream mobile seller. He was a very practical mobile ice cream seller. He walked and sold ice creams. I think he was my first and best motivator in my life. He sold not only ice creams. He motivated me to try.

He kept his ice cream stocks in a carry flask and on the other hand he held a cylinder like wooden holder containing tiny sticks. The hidden end of each stick was coated with two type of paint color: one is blue the other is yellow. If I chose a yellow stick I lost and if it was the blue stick I won. Winning means two ice creams. Losing means I get only one. His marketing method though exceptional, he taught me one thing. In life even if we lose, we do not lose. I still got one ice cream.

Every step leads to a destination. Every try will lead to your calculated destination. If I want to travel to see all Europe, I can travel in many ways. I do it by my own or join the package tour. If I want to be adventurous, I will choose the former. Traveling to Europe can be cheaper if you just take a plane to London and then to Paris and all Europe by rail. In my opinion, that will be an economical option. You see every places of interest in Europe.

Methods will be futile if there is absence of knowledge. Rail travel to all Europe is a one way of travel. Is there a ‘user friendly pass’ for such travel? Information of rail travel is necessary. If you start the travel from London and then to Paris, you have to find alternative paths on how to come to France from Britain if the original plan is disrupted for any reason. Draw out the many paths from London to France. From Paris, which can be the routes you want to take for a comprehensive yet thorough enjoyment of the travel.

In the ‘try cycle’, what do you want to carry with you for the tour? Naturally, if you go solo then you have to bring most of your luggage. Do you want to travel alone or with your friends or family. Calculate the cost involved. If traveling with a group, you have to choose a leader who can lead. Work as a team, as inter-dependancy starts if you go for a project in groups. Each person has a duty to fulfill the objective. The task is diluted.

Travel means a change of climate and living conditions. Be prepared to new living conditions. For the purpose of travel, knowing the living conditions of the country you will be visiting is part of the plan. Group traveling means to disseminate such information to the team.

After you have taken out a time to evaluate your objective, draw out the map to get there. Within this map sub maps must be drawn further. Sub-maps are analogous to capillaries after the main veins in your body. It is getting there by another routes in case the main route is blocked. It is a bypass. How do you want to carry yourself to your destination? Are you getting there alone or there are persons involved in your dream-who have similar idea. You do not want to bring a ‘home-bound’ person for traveling, as it will jeopardize the travel.

Applying this theory is simple. In doing a certain business makes you happy, then decide whether it is going to be under sole proprietorship or partnership. Weigh the plus and minus and you decided on affiliations. Bring in persons who share your thoughts and have a common objective for the vision you share for your business.

There is nothing to lose if you just try. It is an important tool in any decision. If you can map out in detail the ways to try the idea involved I think you can.

Can

The natural path of any success is reaching it. Once you have reached to the idea of can, it is only logical that you stay. By doing it you will get happiness once you have reached your preferred destination.

You are a traveler and traveling now. You are enjoying the scenic beauty of the countries you are traveling. It is the result of the ‘try cycle’ that you are here. Happiness is attained completely once you have completed the travel as planned. You are taking the paths for your destination. ‘Can’ is only possible after your ‘try’ attempt. It will be greatly dependant on the various paths you have drawn in the ‘try’ station. You have to get and build as many information as possible in the ‘try’ room. It will help you get there when you are actually doing it. Then you can do it.

When you have reached the end of your path in the ‘can-cycle’ you are reaching your dream. You will reach your purpose. You are going to be happy once you have reached. In the ‘try-cycle’ if the paths created to reach the ‘destination’ are thorough and complete the obstacle faced in the can cycle is minimized.

Emotional obstacle is one such obstacle. In most obstruction in our life’s path is based on emotion. When this happen an emotional plan is created. Whether I will reach in time to Sicily because I am down with fever. Time will be affected. Think about it. If you are sick you can take proper medication and rest. Either take a rest in a hotel or while in mobility. Cost is cut down when taken rest in mobility, as you do not have to pay the extra hours staying in a hotel.

In a ‘can-cycle’ everything is supposed to be perfect. All the routes have been most meticulously drawn to your destination. All the possibilities are studied. Knowledge of how to reach the destination is mapped out.

 Failure in any plan only occurs when the destination is not reached. Failure happens when during the try section, the plan was ill prepared. You can still keep the ‘try’ section  on hold for a while and come back again. But once, you are in the ‘can’ point backing off means you have not tried properly.

If an idea builds in your mind, people say you cannot. You will also say you cannot do it. There is no knowledge how to reach the idea. Try to do it by putting all the paths that leads to reach that idea. A detailed meticulous art must be drawn. All great paintings have one thing in common. That is detailing. If the detailing is rich the painting comes out best. Snorkeling is poor detailing. Deep diving is detailing. See intently. That is perfect planning.

Success is a product of reaching what you have decided to reach. The last runner who ends in a race is equally a winner. He has completed what he has chosen to reach. In the end all are winners if action is completed

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